Friday, 31 August 2012

Rock Creek Park ii




So it goes. The best news of the past 24 to report is that  E is feeling much better, still suffering from a very suppressed appetite but managed the walk to the village (just over a mile) this morning and a few hours at Fishers Farm Park this afternoon before expiring.

 S (7) drew this picture late last night called "My Family"

Left to right TDO (39 soon to be 40) KJP (me 40) EGP 5 (nearly 6)  OJP 3 and (in the strawberry T shirt of 2012)  SEP 7 (nearly 8)

We all have dream bubbles above our heads. Dinosaur War, Chocolate Cake, Tanks, Cars Cars and Moshi Monsters.
 O at the "Hawking Around" display this afternoon - We met some of our local home ed friends there who we haven't seen in ages. Staff told me it was the busiest day of the year so far. 
 O and S and I made chocolate cornflake cakes this morning - Nigel Slater's recipe. S did the weighing and O did the stirring and I did the hot stuff.
 A lick of paint at the park - We had scheduled a Not Back to School Picnic for today at our local park - the weather has been glorious - but we canceled it when we read the adjacent road was to be resurfaced. Despite a chilly start. The underfloor heating in the bathroom activated itself for the first time in a while.
There has also been glass painting with Weed today and lego playing. Plus TDO's monthly Friday off  too. (which is why the photos of the owl handling are higher than regular quality)

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 S really gains confidence with owl handling.




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Operation Austerity & exercise

Managed the super loop walk today so just over 2 miles leg stretch and also bought forward a purchase for next week - £16 on an (obviously rather large) chicken. Running low of stock, the basis of many inexpensive meals and with the butcher closed on Monday and beach plans for Tuesday. Otherwise stuck to spend collecting bread. £5.00

It was rather nice (smug!) to sit down to breakfast today knowing lunch and supper were already made.

PS

It is rare for me to blog about the politics of home ed, there are others doing a far better job, but there is a parliamentary select committee next week which I will be keeping an eye on and you might like to too.

Thursday, 30 August 2012

Luck Of Lucien



Why are we always the only people at this park? Even in the school holidays



After the #latenightlearning ***Newsflash*** post yesterday and once the boys were asleep S, TDO (The Daddy One for new readers) and I watched a Poirot - "The Murder of Roger Ackroyd" - S, 7, is getting rather good at guessing whodunnit. We love Agatha Christie. She's a home educated role model and hero of ours.



So this morning I embarked on my first super market  shop of operation austerity with the trio in tow.  I cheated and drove as (A) it was raining (B) I quickly realised I needed more shopping than I could carry and (C) I didn't think E would manage the walk having been so run down. 



I'll post the details at the bottom.



After the shops we headed over to Fittleworth Park. S & O were really up for the beach but E wasn't so a compromise. Shortly after we arrived and were playing football (me too :-)) It started raining so we dived in the car and resumed play when it stopped. The second time the sky went black we headed home only to be greeted by blue sunshine. For the first time in a while everyone requested jackets and hoodies this morning. Seasons changing.


So it's been another home-ish day of lego and movies and cooking which will put us out of sync with TDO this weekend as we tend to stay home weekends having been out all week. We have a few ideas and all is achievable with two adults on the case.


In Other News


So, the shop today was £80 in the supermarket and  £20 in the butchers. That means that adding up my week's budget of £20 per day x 7 days = £140 that once I collect the bread order tomorrow, and if TDO had coffee today, the budget is busted! On Thursday! I do have the ingredients for meals through Sunday night at home and at the allotment organised and planned so it is not all grim... except there is no wine. On the upside there are enough Moroccon Lamb Shanks bubbling away on the stove top for the next two nights and an Italian Apple Cake on the worktop. No one said it would be easy.


We invested in new water bottles today and E needed a new toothbrush following his mouth infection but my previous budgets have included toiletries.

Wednesday, 29 August 2012

News Flash

***News Flash***

Whilst TDO and I were having supper, an exclusively home made three course delight of carrot soup, summer tomato pasta and nectarines with amaretto biscuits if you are interested. O, 3, who was sat up at the table with us, just drew his first ever people and E drew a swan........



 E's (5) swan on the water bottom left, a seriously impressive level of drawing from E. I remember reading about how children can make development progress after a period of lying low. Here's my anecdote to add to the evidence.
S has been similarly productive this evening drawing a variety of Moshi Monsters to enter competitions in the magazine Gma bought her today. #latenightlearning

It is interesting to reflect that one of the reasons I set up a blog account was a place to store photos of the trio's artworks so that I could store them with the date for easy access and then "dispose" of the originals.


Lady Day and John Coltrane





The hilarious antics continued last night when S dressed O in her pink leotard with frilly skirt.  The Grandma one painted toes and fingers with alternate colour nail polish, S made fennel tea from the ferns at the allotment, instructed me on baking it in the oven then cooling it with ice?!? Strangely it was really rather tasty. We read later on Wiki that fennel is the basis for the hallucinogenic drink absinthe.

It has been fabulous to have Grandma here for the past 24 hours taking S & O swimming yesterday and to the park today whilst E has been under the weather. One of the hardest parts of having a trio is not having a stunt double. The novelty of 5 home days is wearing off.

E still hasn't eaten much apart from a little scrambled egg this morning and some of the cookies we made this afternoon. He has a cold sore like the one I had last week and one inside his mouth too plus a big hole where his tooth fell out on Sunday :(


At the park today O sat on the bench swinging his legs and said to Grandma "This is the life"

Grandma treated the trio to magazines today. A rare indulgence. E's had a frisby included and S's a moshi monsters card game, I was very impressed at her large number recognition and maths needed to play the game. There was also a code to unlock new games on the website.

S was keen to make cookies today, she googled recipes herself selecting one with 5 stars, followed the recipe totally herself weighing out the quantities as directed. She had to ask me what margarine was as it is not something we have ever had in our house. As Grit from Grit's Day once said "You can cover pretty much the whole primary school curriculum using cake in some form."

We had the annual La Leche League summer picnic and the final Wonderful Wednesday at the Weald and downland Museum on the calender for today but with E so low on energy it was obvious neither were viable.

Very much hoping for some time out tomorrow, the forecast is for a sunny morning..............We've got a fabulous week lined up next week as one of the best week's of the year for us when everywhere becomes empty again.

Today's song is for Grandma. She "Washes my troubles away..........."

 Making cookies today _ s kindly agreed to share the dough she made with her brothers.
 Operation Austerity

No walk for me today, Gma called into Sainsburys ad picked up about £10 worth of groceries we needed whilst I stayed home with E and, once again, I feel I have spent a huge chunk of the day in the kitchen. Remembering that the last time we lived this frugally we moved an arm chair in to the kitchen.

Not sure if I made clear in previous posts but we don't all always eat the same meal - The trio tend to eat in a monkey platter style much of the time for eg O's lunch today was slices of banana, cheese, cucumber, toast. That sort of thing.

Tuesday, 28 August 2012

When We Were Young


Oh my, is this the first time a non jazz, searching for the perfect beat tune has headlined the blog? Well, aside from the trio's selections most certainly yes. Blame "Flashbacks of a Fool." This track hasn't left my head since we watched the film last week. Hopefully this acknowledgement will purge. Reading the comments on this youtube clip I've linked to I'm not so sure though, seems it resonated with many viewers and I'm grateful to the friend (a fellow home ed Mum) who recommended the film to me. If you are in England (or tech savvy overseas) you can actually catch the film on iplayer this week.


Today has had much of the entrepreneurial feel about it. From when E, 5, cut up my household budget sheet to make price labels for his battery shop first thing through to S's spa which she advertised by walking around the house singing "We beat any spa" to the tune of a current TV commercial for a firm called "We buy any car."

My turn in the spa was fabulous, afterwards  O, 3, ate the cucumber slices that were resting on my eyes and I am staggered with the accuracy with which S, 7, applied my mascara and lipstick. I suspect the man who delivers our eggs felt the same. Or perhaps it was the rose perfume.........liberally spritzed. Grandma was a client too.


Tuesday is Grandma day, so before 9:30am my new circuit village walk exercise was complete and S and O have been swimming. O swam with the woggle for the first time and S practised her breaststroke. E is still not up to much. Saturday lunch being the last complete meal he fancied. No obvious sickness just lethargy. Without additional adult help the shop and swim would have been off the agenda today. Seems right to be homeish again as O has done such miracles leaving nappies behind in under a week a long car journey seems a little mean spirited.


 In Other News


Operation Austerity that began back in July when we pledged to only visit places where we had existing memberships through August when I tried my best to monitor our food spend and now in September when £20 per day is the goal. Of course it is not going to be linear, some days we won't shop at all and others we will, consequently, spend more especially when high ticket items expire.


Today's spend was £10 in sainsburys, £5 on our twice weekly bread order and £4 on eggs (12) which we have delivered - we've eaten well. Salad nicoise for lunch with salmon and mushroom risotto lined up for supper. Have also prepared carrot and orange soup for tomorrow and of course the eternal time money dynamic has manifested itself immediately. Attempts to save money meaning huge amounts of time have been spent in the kitchen cooking and preping. Am also concious that the allotment is making a sizable contribution at the moment.

The graze boxes and veggie boxes have been cancelled for the month. I have resisted cancelling our ocado membership as long standing (six years) customers we appear to be on a good deal at £10.99 unlimited minimum £40 spend deliveries until I see how it pans out. It may prove useful to have heavy items delivered and for times of illness, bad weather etc.


 Lunch of nicoise and soup going on

Monday, 27 August 2012

Another Girl iii



This track hasn't been on the blog for ages.


We have these steps in our bathroom and kitchen for smaller people to reach sinks and toilets and they are called "The Brand New Steps" even though they are  5 years old! Grandie made them for us when S, now 7, was a toddler and she christened them and, for half a decade, the name has stuck.

So in our kitchen you might hear a conversation like

"Oww!"

"What have you done?"

"Just walked into the Brand New Steps."

Along with brown paint (aka nutella) and the "First rule of bath club" (to the tune of "What's the first rule of Fight Club?" -have a wee before you get in if you are interested) it is another way conversations that take place within our family have evolved a language all of their own. Of course it was a rule before I knew that principles are better than rules.


The lazy vibe has continued today. A long standing home ed friend over to play this morning. We have known her since she was 4 and she is 12 now, made time during her visit for the allotment and made paper aeroplanes too.



 Ron, who has the plot next door to ours at the allotment, is one of the UK's champion dahila growers. You might recall me mentioning on the blog last year and speculating whether this was a skill he learnt in school. The flowers are not to my taste. I am more about fragrance but I admire his talent and patience. Those blooms will be heading to Yorkshire next week. Yes, that is manure. Not a great fragrance!

Operation food budget begins today and I can report a spend of £2.70, E scootered with me, which was cool, ocado deliveries do have an element of "manna from heaven" about them and we bought a stir fry sauce. In the interests of economy I did google the possibilities of making our own but not being in possession of any of the raw ingredients besides water and sugar it seemed a large outlay for a meal that we rarely eat. Being more of the risotto, pasta, pizza bias.

From today I'll put my food budget notes at the bottom of each post that way you can avoid austerity should you wish. it is tricky to be totally honest and accurate as stock levels in the freezer and larder are fairly high but not so the fridge. There is never going to be a zero point for this sum. In my mind I have £20 per day as a ball park average. We shall see how it goes. It is not going to be linear.


So, for breakfast TDO had warm croissants and duck pate whilst S & O had jacket potatoes with cottage cheese and orange cheese. E didn't want any breakfast, he often has porridge in the week or sausage sandwich at weekends. I had fruit salad and toast.


We also love coffee, recently I've scaled back our illy habit to lavaza levels but, along with countless others, TDO buys a ready made coffee each day on the way to work which I have previously been including in our running budget totals.  Many people have spoken to me and contacted me about this topic, some initially shocked at our spend but slowly revealing that they were, for example, excluding eating out from their totals.


The trio like Actimel probiotic drinks in the mornings which are about 25p each.


For lunch we had allotment salad with the addition of mozzarella to the tomatoes and basil, O had two chicken breast fillets. My attempts at home made here have been rejected. S had ham and bread all wrapped up with home made apricot crumble and ice cream. because we are fairly unschooling in our appraoch we don't all have to have the same meal, I can't help wonder if family food is cheaper in the states where many of the ideas originated!

For super we will have stirfry, S will have ristoto, (we make our own chicken stock so a really inexpensive meal) and the boys will probably have home made pizza. I use bread mix for the dough and reduced (as in cooked down) passata with onions and garlic for the topping.



Sunday, 26 August 2012

Natural Woman






Bit late posting today, the absolutely must twist it rule of wobbly teeth the main contributor.


Remaining in a home centred bank holiday groove with everyone in the relaxing zone. Feels right. Two major motorways near us closed, theme parks posting to say they are full, recalling our empty days at same, another of the myriad of benefits of the counter cyclical home educating life. 


Many films watched today from Disney's "Treasure Planet" through to"Scooby Doo and the Loch Ness Monster" via "The Empire Strikes Back."



Made time for a sunny, couple of hours at the local park, we saw our neighbours there. On the tyre swing I overheard O, 3,  say "But why new black shoes when you have such lovely pink ones?" Regular readers will know he has been clocking shoes from a young age. It must be over a year since he first remarked on Weed's Smart sandals.


O woke in the night time to do a  wee pretty much completing his transition from nappies in under a week. S was the same - days and nights simultaneously when all the books I read at the time suggested such things were not possible.


80% of both lunch and supper came from the allotment today in the form of: radish, celery, tomatoes, aubergine, salad leaves, fennel, parsley.....and, I have made an executive household management decision of the kind  TDO probably expected when he married an economist.



No more online grocery shopping deliveries, I am reverting to a daily local shop with the walk that entails. The two birds I hope to knock out with this stone are first, enforced exercise (the shops are a steep hill away) for me and second, an easier way to keep a handle on spending. The weight on my shoulders will be a more effective constraint on whether we actually need the items or not. It will also ground us in a home centred way. With a regular groove of reliable playdates established and O out of nappies this feels like the right time for a change. My goal for September is to save enough for a new bed for E. And you know me and goals. If there is a conern it is that this perod of record high grocery spending has coincided, not conindentaly I'm sure, with an amazing run of good health in our family, in fact looking back through old blog posts to find when one of our number was last ill I gave up and this will be on my mind as I shop.


The blog past its 18 month birthday without mention a few days ago. 78 weeks old, 74 followers, over 80,000 page views. Thanks everyone for reading, supporting, sharing the possibility of home education as a real alternative with your family and friends and just generally being the lovely people that you are.

Saturday, 25 August 2012

Nearly September



Sometime ago (before I started blogging so pre Feb 2011) we went to an exhibition at Pallant House in Chichester where, as part of the exhibition, this video was being shown. On S's request we returned several times to see it, it is called "Damaged Goods" and for a while we searched for it, without success, online so this morning I was delighted to find it on the artist's facebook feed. S says it is a love story like Romeo & Juliet and that the poodles which star in it where also hidden in the gallery during the exhibition.

O, 3, watched it too. He said

"Can you love someone who is broken?"

Last night, bored of waiting for me to find time to fix the printer and make a Moshi Monsters mask for her S, 7,  set about making her own. Yesterday and today she has written and published two issues of the "Daily Woof" - tempting at moments like this to think I should classify sections of the blog into areas like "S's Art" or similar but then I am reminded that deschooling and unschooling is all about avoiding such unhelpful distinctions. S also made a poster during "Gardeners World" on TV which says "I Love Monty Don." (he is the presenter)


Finally, thanks to funding from some ebay selling and operation austerity, almost a calender year since he mastered the skill during our Center Parcs holiday last September, we have provided E with a two-wheeler bike that fits him and he hasn't forgotten what to do.
S's  choice of tooth fairy (we don't really do made up Santas etc but equally don't spoil it for others) gift for the tooth she lost earlier in the week arrived today too. That's maturity waiting three days for ""fairies"" to deliver. Katsuma lives in the sling. That's "Attachment Moshi Monstering." I guess. So it goes. She came with a code that unlocks other areas of the MM website.



In Other News

Shed many tears dealing with the allotment onions this morning.

Last night I spent several hours going through household finances, I just can't escape the conclusion that it really isn't right that a family of our size on our income is struggling to find money for holidays and home improvements. There were no easy answers in the numbers. Just lots of little figures totalling to one big one. 

Watched lots of lego website with E during the rain showers that have punctuated today.

Forced to conclude that pretty much all of my gym based fitness acquired in Spring this year has now evaporated. Sigh!

E, 5, completed another 4 pages of ladybird Peter and Jane reading scheme today at his request.

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Friday, 24 August 2012

It's Friday and I'm ready to swing.....

There was a parenting period, somewhere between mid 2007 and mid 2008 when I really felt like I knew what I was doing. S was a toddler, E was a baby and we could go for really long walks with them cosy in the huge double pram we owned at that time. Between breastfeeding, co-sleeping, home education, baby led weaning, tandem nursing there was an assured feeling. S was like a sponge leaping and surging ahead. Relative to the standards of our life before and our life now we didn't have very much money to spare but there was a high chance of an afternoon snooze for me as, at 1 and 3, more days than not S and E would sleep a while.




Blast from the past - how ever did we live with those dark green walls!


Then came a wilderness period when I struggled, especially with sibling dynamics and E, to see the world through his eyes but, on days like these when S and E are creating an epic lego city upstairs and O is happily playing a lego game on the tablet I feel again like our path is on firmer footing. Still though sibling relationships remains my hardest area of all. Just when those plates seem to be spinning okay.......


Sometime I think I worked it out all too soon. Completely La Leche League leadership before E was born, In contrast to modern parenting where realising how cool your kids are on the day they leave home sees the norm.


There was an explosion of activity after the beach yesterday afternoon. E spontaneously started doing junk modelling on his own raiding the recycling, there was a drama production staged for TDO and I to watch before supper, all going on!

It continued this morning with Weed's arrival and more creative painting, shield construction and puppet making.

In between the usual youtubing (is that a word) Moshi Monsters website etc etc

In Other News


S and I vacuumed the car of four beach trips, two tip runs and a walk around the nature reserve.

We were set to head to Fishers Farm this afternoon but somehow the day has just melted away.

Operation austerity is too much of a struggle for me - managed to keep food spend at £200, with uber careful zero acceleration driving the £100 of fuel made 700 miles which is great but too much month for the money again! In my defence it is a 5 weeker but then one in four of them are. Saving any real money is going to involve significant amendments.







Thursday, 23 August 2012

Everybody Loves The Sunshine iii








 E has put his dragon on elastic to perform special effects.



A lack of  afternoon siestas guaranteed a much needed evening of sofa action last night, not before a delicious risotto of allotment produce combined with bacon and porchini mushrooms past my lips.......even found time to watch the conclusion to "Death in the Clouds."
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Fortnightly Thursday groove of collecting S's friend and meeting E's friends for dragons at the park, singing, football and a splash in the sea with sand pie making and playing and playing. We've had such fun that there was not a single complaint when I realised that I only had enough change for the car park and none for ice cream. Surprising given the sunshine and school holidays the beach was really empty, Batman toyed with the incoming tide.


We are in a good place friendship wise at the moment with quality not quantity and a playing groove.



In Other News

O seems to have totally come out of nappies day and night  in under 48 hours. No accidents today even though we've been in the car. Not sure why I am surprised, having the patience to wait for developmental readiness usual goes like this. S has been a fabulous help .

We have so many onions from the allotment we could plait them, don navy blue stripe tops and wear them as neck wear.

There is also the super food parsley in abundance - clever TDO, not only did he grow it but had this inspiration for winter reserves and took the great photo montage to complete.

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Wednesday, 22 August 2012

Forget Me Nots

 

 O's fabulous bracelets

 S decorated the plates mats in a futurist style making name cards, invites and laying out snacks for us all.



Sometimes it doesn't go how you thought it might. Despite tiredness from the beach and dog walk there was an manic burst of creative activity before supper last night, whilst Grandma and I tackled neglected chores S , 7,  set about turning the supper table into her idea of a movie star theme which involved writing and designing invites, designing place mats with a futurist theme and laying the table with food and drink and fashioning these great feminium (doily) bracelets for O, 3.



This is how, in my experience and opinion, autonomous education works. Just when you least expect it at the most random time of day suddenly huge bursts and surges occur. and you know I could have said "No." That there wasn't time, that we were busy, too hungry but actually, whilst we were waiting to eat Mum and I had a really great chat and, more significantly if it had been me who had suggested an activity shortly before supper the probability on it turning into a different scenario would have been high.


Meanwhile all kinds of developmental milestones are happening. O has done several  poos on the potty since the last blog post only 24 hours ago having never previously shown any interest, E is doing his own seatbelt in the car.. high drama when E suspected his wobbly tooth had come out and it was a stone..........


Following the mega siesta yesterday there was little appetite for sleep last night, in fact it was our regular night owl who was the first to crash. So we watched Tarzan and had long baths. It was 10:17pm was the last eyes were closed. Now, regular readers will know that I do not want my evenings "back" (as the parenting manual jargon suggests) or really any "me" time aside from basic hygiene but even for me the patience reservoir is draining. It has been many nights now. And "Flashbacks of a Fool" sits in the lovefilm envelope looking at me......


E was pretty rude just before bed, if you want to play lego or watch a movie then you are okay evening company by me but at the end of the day then I am out of ideas. Shame too as he had been such a star when S was in uber tongue poke mode on Monday and shown real empathy. I try and relate this to my own behaviour and consider how many times a day I am less than courteous. Perfection is a naive benchmark but let too many cars out of the junction and drivers behind reach for the horn. Balance in all things.


After Grandma left we headed to our neighbouring town of Storrington this morning for the library and to meet friends at the park. S found an Eva Ibbotson  "Not Just A Witch." she has been keen to read and E is thrilled with "The Wooden Horse." We also bumped into our neighbours and our cleaner.



We had a scoot and play with our friends but headed home earlier than usual in a (successful) bid to prevent car based sleeping action.


As the waves of back to school advertising and sentiment threaten to drown I feel excited and uplifted by our family based plans, gallivants and activities slowly filling up the days for September.

 On the swing at the park with friends

Tuesday, 21 August 2012

I Get Lifted



A semi-spontaneous beach visit to glorious Witterings this morning with both Grandma and Grandie. Fun on the lilo. Sand castle construction. Found three dead crabs which E enjoyed ranking in size order. Spot on 40 minutes door to car park, as rapid as the best beach around gets.

For my part I've been verging towards frazzled. Humid evenings causing late sleepers, a cold sore, mosquito bites all conspiring against me. Sea air always a welcome tonic.

In the car today we have talked about how rich people ate emeralds to protect against the plague, (S told us this) making rose perfume, (after we called in at Apuldrum roses) also foxes and, at the beach, the variety of boats out to sea inspired a spontaneous poem outburst of a fave of mine and Grandmas called Cargoes by Masefield.

Quinquireme of Nineveh from distant Ophir
Rowing home to haven in sunny Palestine,
With a cargo of ivory,
And apes and peacocks,
Sandalwood, cedarwood, and sweet white wine.

Stately Spanish galleon coming from the Isthmus,
Dipping through the Tropics by the palm-green shores,
With a cargo of diamonds,
Emeralds, amethysts,
Topazes, and cinnamon, and gold moidores.

Dirty British Coaster with a salt-caked smoke stack
Butting through the Channel in the mad March days,
With a cargo of Tyne coal,
Road-rail, pig-lead,
Firewood, iron-ware, and cheap tin trays.



S went on a dog walk with the famous Edmund after we arrived home and the boys woke seriously grumpy from having fallen asleep in the car. So it goes.

 O jumps for joy